Samantha Osaduke
Contributor
My guy friends frequently ask me, “why do girls want the bad boy, and why do nice guys always finish last?
The question is a valid one, and one that’s been asked for decades. Needless to say, when it comes to attraction, girls are complicated. But, as a girl myself, let me explain it, guys.
Girls are looking for a challenge, and the bad boy provides them that. We don’t know what they are thinking or what will happen, and it’s this challenge that often inspires the
attraction.
Most girls are probably aware most of their post-secondary relationships won’t last, except the odd few, and since they know they are going to get hurt, it’s better to be hurt by the bad boy, because it’s expected. It’ll hurt less because you know it’s coming.
Thus, for the vast majority of girls, it’s better to have your heart broken by the bad boy than the nice guy.
I honestly don’t blame guys for being confused, and the more mature girls would rather have a nice guy over the bad boy. Nice guys treat girls well, of course, yet they get no
attention.
Girls even tell our guy friends that we want to be treated right, but we fall for the bad boy who we know is up to no good. This understandably frustrates any nice guy, or even our regular guy friends.
Girls perceive nice guys as too easy, and nice guys give off the vibe that they like us a little too much. There’s no challenge.
Don’t worry, nice guys, there’s still hope for you!
Although girls tend to date and fall for the bad boys in the beginning, we always prefer our nice guy in the long run. We outgrow the bad boy phase. As fun as bad boys may be with their parties and what not, nice guys never finish last.
Although bad boys are fun and exciting to date, they are not serious relationship material for us. It is always the nice guys that capture our hearts in the end. They treat us right and girls really appreciate it.
The nice guys actually care about our feelings, and us, which is refreshing. They are generally interested in us, and we simply need some time to mature. They are our future fiancés and husbands.
To all the nice guys out there, don’t fret; keep up the good work and you will be noticed someday. The bad boys are Mr. Right Now, but the nice guys are Mr. Right.
And you can’t go wrong with Mr. Right.
Nice guys win (eventually)
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..plus, girls like oldre guys anyways. The nice guys need to remember a few things… why would you want someone who rejected you at first? Secondly, there are literally SCORES of women who want a guy like you (not just in Western nations, but all over the world), and thirdly…. it is simply a rite of passage for some guys- some guys are meant to do more with their lives than rock young womens’ panties. Young guys who are ‘nice’… keep these things in mind, next time you wanna go the whole ‘nice guys finish last’ route. It simply isn’t true. Also, look at it like this… theguys who are getting all the action… by the time they are 30-35… their glory days will have passed them by. Those girls who you could never have… by the time they are 30-35…. divorces, kids, bad relationships, emotional baggage. This is the time for you all to build yourselves into something. To become what you have always wanted to be. Let the ‘bad boys’ have those females… too many women now to pine over a classmate that don’t even notice you.